AUTHOR BEATTY COHAN, MSW, LCSW
Learn her Secrets!
For Better for Worse Forever-Discover the Path to Lasting Love
is the only
relationship book that you’ll ever need to read to discover how to assess who’s
right or wrong for you BEFORE committing to any serious relationship like a
marriage. When you follow the Cohan’s 10-step fail-safe formula, you will
finally be able to hit the relationship jackpot. Thousands of men and women have
successfully used this formula and all agree that “it’s like having
psychotherapist BEATTY COHAN in your purse or wallet, taking you by the hand and
guiding you through your relationship journey”.
If you’re tired of relationships that go nowhere, this book will keep you safe and will help you find ‘the one’.
The ten step formula to a successful relationship!
Hooking up and breaking-up is the theme song these days for relationships (married or not). But instead of merely lamenting this sad reality, the real questions are twofold: Why is this happening? And more importantly, what if anything are we prepared to do about it?
As a nationally recognized psychotherapist specializing in the area of relationships and marriage, I have discovered that relationships fail for 4 reasons:
- If both people are not emotionally and psychologically healthy, it is not possible to have a healthy long-term relationship.
- The majority of people have no idea whatsoever what ingredients go into a healthy long-term relationship or marriage.
- If you don’t know (2), you are in no position to be able to assess who’s right (or wrong) for you.
- The majority of men and women are unfortunately lacking in communication and problem-solving skills.
And interestingly, my research demonstrated that it takes close to one year and not a few weeks or months to complete a thorough evaluation of who your partner is and isn’t. This process unfortunately cannot be fast-forwarded. Also, there is absolutely no correlation whatsoever between socio-economic status and relationship success and skill. In fact the only significant difference between my Inner City patients’ relationships and my rich and famous clientele of the last 20 years is that the latter can take a week-end trip on their private plane or yachts to take a break from their relationship woes. So whether people are rich or poor, religious or not, educated or not, black or white; none of these variables correlate with having a healthy, successful and loving long-term relationship. Relationship success is dependent on relationship education. And unless this happens we will continue to spiral downwards in our relationships and marriages.
So are you ready once and for all to learn the essential ABC’s of successful and happy relationships? And are you prepared to inject some rational thinking into your love life? I hope that your answers are yes! So get ready for a new beginning. My formula will change the way you look at relationships forever and may even save your life!
A Tragic Trend!
Half of all first marriages today will end in divorce tomorrow.
Sixty percent of second marriages will fail. That number will
escalate in the third or more marriages. What are the reasons for
this national tragedy whose consequences have devastated children’s
lives and struck fear of marriage into the hearts and minds of adult
children of divorce? The explanation for this contemporary calamity
lies in the mythical belief that love and romance conquer all
adversity. Also, how many people were fortunate enough to have
positive role models for parents to teach them about healthy love
and relationships?
Blinded by romance, people frequently marry someone who they really don’t know. Finally, if we don’t know what ingredients go into a healthy, long-lasting relationship and if we rely on misleading portrayals of love in movies, television and popular music, how can we then expect to be able to assess who’s right or wrong for us? The reality is that we can’t and we don’t.
We spend more time researching cars, grams of fat and real estate than we do our partners. Think back to how you often thought you knew everything there was to know about him/her. You believed that the person you were in love with was exactly whom he/she seemed to be. You were sure that you had found your life partner and perfect match. Then suddenly without warning you realize that you are headed for disaster. Your relationship is in shambles. Your mind is spinning. What went wrong? Chances are the signs were there all along. You just didn’t know what to look for. How many times have you heard the post-marital lament, “If I’d only known what he (or she) was really like, I’d never have married her).”
The 10-Step Fail-Safe Formula That Will Change the Way You Look at Relationships Forever. This formula is based on Beatty and Elliot Cohan’s book, ‘For Better, For Worse, Forever-Discover the Path to Lasting Love’
- Predicting the Future: Family Background. Take a close look at your partner’s parent’s relationship to get a good idea of what you might expect from him. Family background is the first place to look for your partner’s programming. What we learned as kids we play out as adults unless we have learned to acknowledge, address and take whatever steps are necessary to resolve our problems from the past.
- Lurking Around the Corner: Skeletons in the Closet puts sexually transmitted diseases into perspective and shows you how to recognize early signs of alcoholism and other kinds of substance abuse. Neither the alcoholic nor the drug abuser is a good candidate for any relationship. This chapter also has pointers about verbal, emotional and physical abuse and how to recognize them. Run to the nearest exit if your partner is abusive in ‘any’ way at all.
- More Skeletons Lurking: This chapter helps you to identify the signs and symptoms of clinical depression, anxiety and other psychiatric problems. These problems are often invisible to the untrained eye and ear and are major obstacles to a successful love connection.
- Listening Carefully: Did You Hear What I Said? Everyone talks about the importance of communication. However, the majority of people have simply not learned the necessary skills in order to be able to communicate effectively. How well (or how badly) you and your partner are able to express emotions like love, fear, disappointment, anger and pain will make or break your relationship.
- The Art of Compromise: Problem- Solving: is the most crucial of the key ingredients. Why? Because this skill will help you deal with situations in all other areas of your relationship. Even the most harmonious relationships have conflicts that need to be worked out fairly and openly. Couples who never argue- never grow. It is essential to discover your partner’s attitude and level of skill in dealing with conflict and compromise early on in your relationship.
- Imitating Intimacy: Sexual Illusions: By now you will have put to rest many relationship myths. Yet, some of the most dramatic myths appear in the confusion many of us feel about the differences between sex and intimacy. This subject will help you clarify whether or not your partner is capable of true intimacy. You will be able to eliminate the common myth: if two people are physically attracted to one another than they must be “made for each other.” You’ll become very clear about the difference between lust and love.
- Lovemaking: the Agony and the Ecstasy raises delicate but important issues about sexuality and sexual problems. The human sexual condition is a highly sensitive network. Many men and women are uninformed about our own sexuality and that of the opposite sex. Education, information, communication and chemistry are the key to a successful and exciting sex life.
- Old Baggage: Past Loves emphasizes that past experience does not necessarily make you (or your significant other) a skilled partner. We unwittingly choose the same kind pf partner repeatedly though he/she may look and sound different. Unless your partner (and you) has done his homework on past relationships and truly understands what part he played in why the relationship failed, you may find him reacting to the past rather than to you in the present.
- Deal Makers, Deal Breakers. When it comes to making a deal with a new partner, be honest with your self. Become aware of silent, unconscious deals. What values can you accept? What can’t you accept? Find out how compatible you are intellectually and educationally. Do you share similar goals, values, lifestyles, religious beliefs, interests, views about money, children, politics and careers?
- Being Realistic: There’s No Such Thing as the Perfect Partner.
If your partner is skilled in the most important of the ten key
ingredients and you share good chemistry, look carefully at the
compromises you might have to make. Certain compromises and
trade-offs are okay to make, but certain situations should never be
tolerated under any circumstances.
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